“The Art of Extending Grace vs. Perpetuating Infantilism”
We have much to say about this, but it is hard to explain because you are slow to learn. In fact, though by this time you ought to be teachers, you need someone to teach you the elementary truths of God’s word all over again. You need milk, not solid food! Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. But solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
Grace has been extended to me on many occasions for my stupidity and childish behaviors. Allowing people to experience life where they are at and moving towards a direction of health and truth is a philosophy I can embrace. Even to the person who has been part of a church for many years and is barely beginning to experience truth and life change of Christ, in my opinion, isn’t ideal, but a good place to be nonetheless. I firmly believe that the Holy Spirit, rather than man’s wisdom alone, is the determining factor and power at work in initiating change in ones life.
That being said, it seems like to the many who…(though wouldn’t admit or phrase it quite like this), who want to stay in a diaper, potentially crapping on themselves, stinking up the place and making a mess for someone else to clean, craw up into their high-chairs week after week, safely lowering the feed tray to keep them from any unexpected fall-outs; yet congratulate themselves for exercising the gift of long-suffering as they patiently await their next meal.. for those who enjoy eating the pureed bananas and peaches, but pout and whine, even spit up when spoon fed the more difficult flavors of nutrition, yet once again boast about how “at least I’m off the milk”… Come on!
But the problem isn’t only the 50 year old self-soiled baby who thinks life is only about their next high-chair meal experience, but to the owner of the hand that continues to dip their spoon into the jar of baby food, expressing to their overgrown infant that “it’s all going to be ok…” Not willing to endure the whining and grumbling of the unhealthy fat man sitting in front of them, unwilling to grow up, so the hand “graciously” dips the spoon back into the jar once again.
To me, it’s heart breaking and a shame that (though maybe a bit overstating) this tends to be the norm in our American Cultured Christianity, not the exception. It’s no wonder why this behavior has been a detriment to our witness in a hurting world. If i were not a christian, as hurt and misguided as I might be, I wouldn’t dare think of approaching a fat man sitting in an overgrown baby chair, sucking down some pre-chewed bananas and full of crap as a solution to my hurt.
It’s time to put on the big-boy pants and grow up!